Friday, August 31, 2007

Well... That Wasn't Awkward.... PT.1

Last week, after being called an Uber Bitch, and the Category 5 ShitStorm in Alabama,(I seriously need to post both of these stories) I decided this was going to be a better week... I'm gonna lay low for a bit...
Monday, I go to the salon to clean my station, return calls, and confirm my appointments for the following day... I have a msg to call Scott, I'm assuming a client wanting to get in... I dial...
Voice- Hello
Syn- Is Scott available?
Voice- This is Scott
Syn- This is Michael from (My Salon)...
Voice- Michael... this is Scott...
Syn- (shit)
I recognize his voice then... It's the 7 year X... it was a bad break. He was controlling, and manipulative... I was young and stupid... About 5 years into our relationship... It started going bad... Scott became mean, nasty , and paranoid... mentally abusive (sometimes physical) and occasionally would accuse me of cheating (which I didn't, I don't believe in it)... but, we were working on it, and I loved him... In our 7th year, he took a job in Chicago... without talking to me about it first (he did that quite a bit, but on a much smaller scale) and in a month he was gone... He expected me to move as well... When I said no (which I should have done much earlier, about so many things) It was done... We haven't spoken since (so almost 7 years)... well till today...

Syn- Well... Hi. How are you?
Scott- Good... How are you?
Syn- Good.
Scott- I moved back to Atlanta.
Syn- Yeah, I know, Bern told me... (Bernadette is his Sister in law, she comes to me to get her hair done)
Scott- Well... the reason I called... I don't really trust anyone here to cut my hair, and I was wondering if you would mind doing it... Would you have a problem with it?

Let me stop here for a minute... He is a hairdresser... but, also does product education for a hair company... He knows hairdressers everywhere... even in Atlanta. My hairdresser sense is tingling...

Syn- No, not at all...
Scott- really ?
Syn- Sure... No problem at all...
Scott- Do you have anything this Thursday?
Syn- I have an 11:00 open...
Scott- Awesome... I'll take it...
Syn- Great... I'll see you at 11:00 on Thursday
Scott- Thanks Michael...
Syn- No Worries...

I hang up... wow... that was unexpected... not him calling (I mean it was, but thats not what I'm talking about)... my reaction... I wasn't sure if/when I talked to him again how I would react... Awesome, I guess that little bit of therapy after our breakup helped more than I thought... I felt nothing... absolutely nothing... No anger, bitterness...

Sorry for the long post... I had to break it up into parts...

As Always... Be Kind To Yourselves... I'm Fine Thanks For Asking...

6 comments:

Steve said...

Well good for you for handling it so well. I can't say I would've. I still feel weird when I hear from an ex. No matter how much time goes by :)

Sue said...

Hmm. So how long ago did all of this happen? You did handle it well. If it were me, I would be proud of myself. Plus, I would assume he was using me because I was the best damn hairdresser in town! So there! There is no substitute! (Hope you shaved his head! - kidding!)

Donnie said...

Kudos to you, Synrgy. You handled that very well. I hope all goes well with the meeting/haircut.

Ryan said...

u did handle it well but when u get 2 his hair screw it up haha!

Christopher said...

Yes, you handled that very well...now the true test is whether or not you take a big chunk out of the back of his hair.

Dwight said...

Yep, that is great that you handled it so well. I know this isn't what you were doing, but killing them with kindness is the best! :)